A devastated father has described his heartbreak after his partner aborted their baby following a “whirlwind romance”.
A father has written to an agony aunt column in YOU Magazine, included in The Mail on Sunday, after his partner aborted their child.
The unnamed man, who already has children from a previous relationship, was “thrilled” when he learned he was going to have another child. Although the pregnancy news was “a shock”, both he and his partner had, he says, “discussed children right from the outset because she hadn’t become a parent yet and, for her, a long-term relationship would need to include children”.
But “within a week” she told him she wanted an abortion…
“She said that she suddenly realised it was a huge mistake. She thought she wanted to be a mother but now didn’t because it meant too much sacrifice… She wanted to focus on ‘us’ and having a rich, unencumbered relationship without children.”
Although the man “tried desperately to convince her that she might regret an abortion more deeply than she could imagine”, she still had the abortion.
The anonymous father is now “heartbroken” and says he is “numb with shock and anger…
“Now I’m not sure how I feel about her and am wondering if she is the person I thought she was… The only feelings of regret she has expressed were for the physical pain she suffered. She seems almost gleeful about the future and has not asked me how I am.”
The grief of fathers must be recognised
SPUC’s Michael Robinson, Executive Director (Public Affairs and Legal Services), said: “The grief of fathers who have lost children to abortion is very real yet for the most part untold and unrecognised. But their stories deserve to be heard and taken seriously.
“In this case, the lack of concern for this father, on the part of his partner, is disturbing. While he did all he could to reassure her and defend the right to life of his unborn child, the mother did not, sadly, exhibit that same understanding.
“This is what abortion does to us, to individuals and society, ultimately consenting to the destruction of an unborn baby, even despite of the love and wishes of the father – including good men such as Jean-Paul and Franco, who also lost children to abortion.
“As well as seeking to protect unborn children and mothers, we must also do all we can to understand, help and protect such fathers who have to watch on helplessly as their children are killed.”
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